The tremor started as I walked up to the counter. I looked up, facing the plexi-glass separating me and the barista. Taped to the barrier were two 8.5 x 11 pieces of paper, with a message to the neighborhood. I read that this Starbucks location is closing on April 4th.
“This is tragic” I blurted to no one.
Catching myself in my ridiculous statement, I blushed under my mask.
Trying to recover, I mumbled to the young woman waiting to take my order. “I’ll survive. But, this is a bummer.”
The closing of a corporate coffee shop is not tragic. A sign on glass is small compared to very real, looming challenges unfolding around the world. This loss of place is not life threatening. We know this.
My strong reaction masked memories and feelings of comfort that bubble up when I walk into rooms with slate floors and walls covered in green and white. The smell of beans, the packages of grounds, sparkling mugs with mermaids and white; all reminders of times before.
I noticed a wave of grief move within me. Not immense sadness. Instead, indicators of change taunting me with the truth of how quickly spaces of life transform into vacancies. Empty buildings. Stacked chairs. Locked doors.
I grabbed our drinks and joined Dylan outside. We began the walk home together.
I’d brought coffee to Dad’s office for years. He’d give me a twenty when I worked there in the summer, and I’d come back with iced lattes for me, and always Pikes Place for him. When we closed his office, removing furniture and files and countless awards, we left a tall cup of black liquid in the corner to cool, closing the doors behind us.
These places become a part of us. When they close, they press into motion seismic waves of memories of what was and murmurs of what will no longer be.
I’ve kept quiet this month, waiting for four years to turn to five in the course of a day. Sometimes, the approaching of the anniversary hurts more than the day itself. Beauty is harder to witness as the clouds come in, knowingly bringing weight and mist to the air. Last weekend the mist turned to blizzard, and two feet of snow fell in my front yard. Rain turns leftover piles to slush, and tonight we’ll have ice clinking to recently broken branches.
These cycles of days turning to years, wet turning into snow, piles turning into melt reveal these patterns have purpose.
When I care for myself, I can see the storm coming, and time has taught me to prepare accordingly.
At the start of the month, I chose a word for myself. Support.
Support. Being open to it. Asking for it. Being surprised by it.
Support looks like many beautiful things.
Friends sent me packages and caring texts. Others delivered donuts to my door. A card from a colleague echoed my questions in ways I didn’t know were living within me, until they showed up in my mail box. Her hand written words mirrored my experience in life-giving ways. The anniversary of the day He died came and went and tears fell. Before I went to bed, big sobs eked out as I held my knees, leaning against walls, wedging my body into the corner to feel support on all sides.
I was surprised by the intensity, and the release. The anticipation of pain left my body in waves.
Coffee shops are closing. Snow is falling. Days turned to years. And the quakes, while present, are smaller. What a beautiful thing.
So lovely. So heartfelt. So true.
Bless you, Katie.