I walked through the front door and looked straight through the house to see Dylan wearing gloves in the backyard. A baby squirrel, so small its eyes were unopened, had fallen out of the nest in the tree shading our deck. He gently scooped up the creature and wrapped it in a towel.
We stared at each other, wondering what we should do as it whimpered quietly.
We called animal control and waited for the inevitable.
The morning came, and with it, a blessing of release for the creature who couldn’t make it through the night. The tiny body seared itself into my memory, for when I was brave enough to see, vulnerability, potential, and hope were revealed. We are all so very fragile.
Yes, it’s the circle of life, and the realities of survival of the fittest, but in a baby squirrel I saw so much more about what alive means. Those explanations never fill the gaps or provide solace for the being experiencing pain.
The weight of our fragility has been bringing me to tears these days. That we live to take a breath, in and out again, is miraculous enough to make me weep.
I’m tired of living afraid.
What now seemed safe perhaps isn’t, and the conflicting messages on masks and numbers has heightened my nervous system once again.
I find myself in a torn place – between wanting to consume everything I can about grief and our realities of sorrow, and also wanting to avoid all pain. I envy those who easily move on towards living.
Perhaps the balance is in the in-between.
I’m moved by ordinary things, both magical and mad.
Perhaps living fully is being scooped up after our falls, waiting to recover in piles of dirt or the garage towels.
Perhaps living fully is dirty work.
I know, with certainty, that living fully means allowing my tenderness to be witnessed.
And maybe, living fully is the opposite of waiting for the inevitable.
Maybe living fully is eating funfetti cake waiting six months for a half-birthday celebration and licking frosting laced with freezer burn from cold fingers.
Maybe living fully is calling a therapist and saying I need some help again.
Maybe living fully is hugs in the kitchen and snot smears on t-shirts.
Maybe living fully is showing up scared.
Maybe living fully is masks in the workplace, and the grocery store, and the crowded hallways.
Maybe living fully is the honoring of the in-between.
What a beautiful thing.
May your days be spent not waiting for the inevitable, but instead focused on tending the fragile and the beautiful and caring for others with gentle hands. And cake. I hope there is lot’s of beautiful cake.