It has been a few weeks. I haven’t been writing. The end of May is approaching and I’ve been swirling between the weekly grind, remembering birthdays, softball games, late night dinners, and ukulele lessons. We are filling up our days and nights. When I lift my head I inhale a smile and think, “We did it. We are living again.”
This weekend we focused on our backyard. The sunshines strong rays threatened my sensitive skin and ants bit my legs. From under our deck we dragged outdoor furniture into the light. Didn’t we just put this stuff away? How did six months of hibernation pass so quickly?
Filthy, mucky water sat stinking and stagnant, pooling on the tarp covering my two-seater lounge chair. While meant to protect our seasonal seats, the synthetic material wasn’t able to do its job. Instead the water soaked through, warping wood, causing paint to fleck, and chip. The original surface exposed.
Got out the hose. Found a sponge and some soap and changed my shoes to sandals. Washed off the muck. More paint chips fell to the lawn growing at my feet. Clean water kissed my toes.
Our attention shifted towards our garden plot, four bags of dirt anxiously waiting for something to grow on its center. Poured fertilizer, placed water lines, tucked seeds in rows with potential one inch under the ground. Sweat poured off our faces and into the dirt. We rubbed each other’s backs and sat down to rest. Grass tickled my legs and held me close – grounded me as my skin graced the Earth.
She whispered, “See, I’ve got you. Look how far you’ve come”
Two years ago, the summer after Dad died, we would go to my mom’s house and sit in her backyard. We’d lay in the grass and feel Mother Earth, and squint as the sun glinted off our tears mingling with dirt on our cheeks. Many, many days laying in grass because nothing else seemed manageable.
I can’t believe how far we’ve come.
Dad’s 61st birthday was two weeks ago. It felt awful and funny and sad. I posted this on Instagram.
This birthday felt like under the surface, seeds planted long ago were growing.
Seeds of joy. God planted them in our darkness – tiny little buttons composed of Dad’s memories and life and love for us – organic materials.
They told me this would happen.
That grief would soften to joy.
I didn’t believe them.
Yet, if someone told me flowers were growing under all that dirt in my back yard and I’d never seen blossoms before, I probably wouldn’t believe them either.
Under all that dirt. Washing off muck, and flecks of paint that cover the pain, we are still here. Our original selves.
A beautiful thing.